Unattainable Living?

I watched “A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood” a week ago. Definitely a tear jerker. There was a certain part in the movie that struck me to write this. In the movie a character asked Fred Roger’s wife what it was like to be married to a saint. She then stated she wouldn’t label her husband that and also went on to say that he is not perfect. At times his temper can get the best of him. His wife said he finds ways to channel his anger so it will not be destructive. There’s more to his life, but I’m trying not to reveal too much if you plan on seeing the movie.

There has been a running theme of those who seem to have a perfect life or super spiritual life that are revealing that their lives are not so perfect. In the middle of this year, there was a preacher of a megachurch who struggled for years with depression who committed suicide. Joshua Harris, the author of “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” left his faith. I had my preacher today say that he said something hurtful to his wife and apologized. I sincerely appreciate his honesty.

That being said, all of us have someone in our life that we think is perfect or have some “secret” to their spiritual life. I’ve been guilty of holding these people to a very high standard that only God can fulfill. I also am aware of how some people view me as well. But, shocker, I have my flaws as well! I’m a deeply emotional person and if I don’t keep reign over my thoughts it can down spiral into a depression for me. I’m not the only one struggling with this because I’ve talked to some of you. I’m also a people pleaser, and there have been times I’ve listened to people’s advice over God’s and I paid a price for that as well. I know some of you who struggle with this too.

So, to all of you who think that if you walk into a church and will immediately catch on fire because of how you lived your life, know that the only reason why everyone else in there hasn’t burned up is because of God’s grace and mercy. Not because we lived life perfectly. He makes us good and created all human beings in His image and likeness (Genesis 1:27). And if we’re created in His image, how great is our potential!

Love to all my brothers and sisters near and far.😘❤

Dancing and His Will

Hello everyone! I took quite the hiatus from writing something since coming to Oregon, but there is something today I’ve been itching to say. I love to dance! And I’ve been taking ballroom lessons, which is so much fun! Anyway, at church I’ve also been going through a study with the ladies group about God’s will for our lives. Why am I mentioning ballroom lessons and God’s will in the same spiel here?

Well….as a Christian we want to do God’s will correct? We also want a relationship with God as well? One thing pointed out in the study I’m doing is some of us being more focused on anticipating God’s will rather than being still in his presence so we can better hear Him. Especially at times when He is “silent”. So, when I’m dancing sometimes I try to anticipate the leader’s next move, especially when the dance feels awkward. My anticipation of the next move is sometimes wrong. What my teachers have been continuing to teach me is learning to connect with them. Once you figure out how to connect, it’s much easier for you to be lead, and you don’t have to anticipate the next move. And the dance flows so much better! So, same with God, we have to practice our connection with Him and we won’t have to try to anticipate His next move, we’ll know it based upon the connection.

Practice is key here! I have to practice my connection with God as well as connecting to my partner in ballroom dance.

Hope this encourages you all. Love to my brothers and sisters near and far.😘❤💃

Forgiveness…Only For You?

Been thinking about forgiveness lately. I often hear the phrase, “Forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s for you.” In all honesty, I don’t agree entirely with this statement. I do agree with letting go of hurt that is currently holding you back. I do agree with the fact that holding back forgiveness will continue to fester bitterness inside you and make you inclined to take that bitterness out on others who don’t deserve it. You may be justified in your hate, but you’ll never be free from the offense.
Bigger question still, what about the other person? There are offenders out there that are truly evil without a willingness tho change. But some reading this know that someone whose been hurt will at times go on to hurt others, because the hurt is all they know. And the vicious cycle goes on. Truly heartbreaking how that perpetuates. I’m grateful for the One who has the key to break this awful cycle.
Last question, what is God’s view on forgiveness? Is the reason why he died on the cross and poured out forgiveness for himself alone? I highly doubt that. He offered His grace because of Love, because of the initial good he created us for, being made in His image and to restore us from being separate from Him because of sin. We are definitely worth dying for.
I believe this, because I’m created in God’s image and because of the power He gave to me, I can forgive even major offenses that have been dealt me. I sincerely believe that is possible. Also, I see how broken this world is and how the Evil One only seeks to hurt and pile lies on top of the hurt. All this hurt is definitely not what God wants for anyone. May we have compassion on all those hurting.
For those going through the struggle of forgiving, I’m right there with you and am praying for you. I ask for prayers as I work toward forgiving the way Christ would forgive and not just for my own exoneration.

Be An Influence…Even As A Female

I haven’t written something in a while. Kinda going through a writer’s block I guess. Anyway, my church in Huntsville brought up the topic of gender roles which has been controversial between the Church of Christ denominations. I’m not writing this to tell you my stance on the issue, but something for my sisters to be thinking about. I have traveled to different churches, some were very conservative and others pretty progressive that do things that would definitely bother conservative churches. When it comes to the more conservative churches, some of my sisters wonder where they fit and may feel stifled by what they can’t do because they are female. It breaks my heart to know that some of my sisters feel as if they can’t be effective because they are a woman. One thing I have noticed when I traveled was no matter the church, I aimed to encourage. And my presence at every church did not go unnoticed, conservative or progressive. I’m not saying that to brag. I’m saying that because I’m a single female who makes an impact because of the gift of encouragement given to me from the One I love the most. I can make an impact anywhere God has placed me. I have the ability to influence through the words I speak. So my encouragement to those reading is this, don’t focus on the things in the church you’re not allowed to do, but think of everything that you can do. Ask Him for insight on what your gifts are. And don’t just think about the church you’re currently attending, your brothers and sisters are all over this world. We need to aim to help all of our brothers and sisters. I hope my sisters are especially encouraged by this. Love to all my brothers and sisters near and far.

Closure Necessary?

Greetings ladies and gentlemen! So, for awhile I’ve been thinking about closure in many aspects from relationships, friendships and family bonds. Closure is something we seek to be able to move on with life. But, a lot can agree with me that sometimes life doesn’t always afford you closure. I can think of 5 things in my life I don’t have closure on. I’m going to keep specifics out for privacy of others. I’ve dealt with harm coming to me and wondering if justice would come for many years, people who I adore who don’t talk to me anymore for whatever reason despite me reaching out, and people passing away without knowing the reason why. Is it a strong desire for me to have an answer for these things that have happened? Yes. Do I have to have an answer to these things to live a meaningful life? No. The reason why I don’t need an answer is because the One I love the most holds all the answers and at the end of my life I will know everything I need to know. If closure always happened here on earth and every answer provided for me here, I wouldn’t look to heaven for my answers or peace or comfort during hard times. Our focus should ALWAYS be on Him, whether or not we have an answer. Depend upon Him when you don’t have an answer you’ve been seeking for years. Also, others who are struggling like you may need help with making peace with their situation. So, don’t hesitate to help. For my brothers and sisters struggling right now, know I’m always praying for you and that you can find peace in Him who knows every fabric of your being. Love to all of you.😘💗