Loneliness Part 1

Been thinking a lot about this loneliness epidemic going on. It seems to be particularly noticed in the US and the UK. You know it’s bad when the prime minister of the UK is appointing a minister for loneliness and here in the US we have high profile celebrities committing suicide. Some people think that this is a single person’s problem and if we just found someone we would never be lonely again. Well… I’ve had friends in relationships and marriages who told me they have felt lonely during these times. So, what’s the deal?
I know some are wanting to know if I feel lonely, and I can say I felt lonely and misunderstood in my 20s even when I was surrounded by people who love me. In my 30s, I probably feel this way rarely. What’s the difference? My relationship is a whole lot deeper with God than it was in my 20s. I have a better understanding of His will for me now. He has also proven to me that he knows me better than anyone on Earth ever could. That gives me the most comfort. So, when it comes to God and Christ be honest and transparent about where you are in your relationship with Him. Going through the motions and doing out of obligation you know doesn’t work with Him. His desire in the next life is to be with you always and forever. No other relationship on this earth has the capacity to be this strong and last into forever. There are some awesome love stories made into movies due to the strength of love. This Love is far greater even than this! Lean on Him and reach out to Him in your loneliest hours. He is always there. Much love to my brothers and sisters near and far.😘💗

Carpe Diem

I can’t believe I haven’t posted anything since February! AAAAHHH!Well, I’m back, at the end of April! Shaking my head at my own self at this moment!

So, a touchy subject for many. In light of sad things that have happened these past few weeks from Barbara Bush, Erin Popivich, and then having a dear patient pass, it’s just difficult to talk about death. Our culture usually wants to avoid talking about it because it makes us think of someone departing and the immense hurt it will leave us. And we want to stay positive, right? Why talk about this negative subject?
Well, there is some wisdom in Carpe Diem, Seize the Day. We don’t know what tomorrow may bring and we’re not guaranteed even tomorrow. Lindsey Tyler is that weighing reminder for me. Lindsey and his brothers were like having an extra three rambunctious brothers. My parents would have the Tyler family over at our house regularly for bible studies and we would play outside while they were having bible study. I miss Lindsey still. We still don’t know what he died of. He was so healthy and was the youngest of the Tyler brothers. Crazy thing was I witnessed his entire life. I was seven when he was born so I remember him as a baby and when I was 29 he passed away at 22. He definitely made me think about not taking my life for granted even though I’m still young. I want to live my best life here and do everything I can for the One I Love the most. And, the important thing is to do this now, and not wait for the “right” or “perfect” time. That time may never come. Just like Barbara Bush leaving an impression we can carry her legacy forward along with carrying the legacy of those who have passed before us. And, btw, if you’re a Christian, we shouldn’t be fearing death (preaching to myself), but carrying Christ’s legacy forward and giving others hope of a better life than this current one. Praying for all of my brothers and sisters near and far who are hurting at this time. My heart aches for you. May you find strength in God and His Almighty power. 💗

The Aim of Gratitude

I came across something twice during the week, and when it comes my way twice I pay close attention. On Friday, my meditation app had a session about loving and giving under conditions. Later on that night, my devotional from my Bible app talked about how we might be working hard for God so we can receive (fill in the blank). Both apps emphasized us loving someone because we know they will love us back or helping in a cause to make us feel better. Both apps emphasized loving and giving upon the condition that it will ultimately make us feel better. Is this the ultimate aim we should shoot for?
I reflected upon this myself and thought about when it comes to God, do I read my Bible, do things for the church, and help someone in need so I can feel better and earn God’s approval? Am I searching for a formula that says, “If I do exactly this, God will give me this and if I don’t get this I didn’t do the formula right.”? Honestly at times I would think this way and the outcome didn’t always turn out the way I thought it would.
So, why should I read my Bible, do good for others, and continue with my current job? The answer both apps gave was the expression of gratitude. The meditation app stated to do a good deed and keep it to yourself and don’t seek approval. Then you will notice a change of your attitude. My devotional took things further and said to do things out of the gratitude of what Christ has done for you and because of who He is. The act of gratitude prevents you from seeking out approval from others and to not seek a reward for your own gain. The job you have, God gave you the ability to do that particular job, praise him for that ability that he bestowed upon you. The children you have, they are a blessing from God in their good and bad moments, praise him for who they are and what they may become. Living here in America, yes, America as messed up as we think it is, is still a better place to live in than most places in this world. Praise God that you live here. Your health, praise God and be thankful that you can walk, talk, enjoy people and nature when you want to. I work with patients and know people currently who don’t have the ability to do some of these things. I could go on about all we should be thankful for, but I’ve already said quite a bit.
My main point is this, our lives should always be lived out of gratitude for what God has done, is doing, and will do. Not to seek out self validation or comfort on this earth. Don’t follow your heart alone, first follow God’s heart and He will reveal the true desires of yours. Love to my brothers and sisters near and far.😘💗

Government Shutdown Blame

I’m sure many are aware of the government shutdown and it’s very sad to see. I’m angered and saddened by this. Mainly because of how our officials are acting on both sides. We have Americans working government jobs and people in the military who will be impacted by this. When it comes to this I’m not siding with either the Republicans or the Democrats on this. The Republicans blame the Democrats and the Democrats blame the Republicans. Playing the blame game is childish and foolish and I expect better out of the officials of this country. Right now, those in the White House, House of Reps, and Senate are a huge disappointment to me for the way they are acting. From interviews that I have seen on TV so far, many Americans share my sentiment of our officials needing to stop playing the blame game and to sit down and listen to each other and talk. Forgive me for going on a rant, but this behavior just isn’t a good example to the American people at large. So, to my readers, like I’ve said in a previous post, it is up to us as citizens to make America great. We demonstrated this last year when we went to help our fellow Americans in Puerto Rico, Florida, and Texas after the hurricanes devastated homes, businesses and cities. We demonstrated compassion by supporting those who lost their lives in the deadly Las Vegas shooting. This is a demonstration of how compassionate and great we are so far. We still are going to have difficulties with living in this country especially with dealing with racism, dealing with the controversy that is starting to surround the #MeToo movement, and now the feud going on between the two main parties in the US. To my readers, don’t let what is going on in the news and in our government get you in a state of hopelessness. I know plenty of us are angry about what is going on in the government, but don’t let that prevent you from doing the right thing. Show support for those who will be impacted by this and pray that our officials can come to an agreement soon!

Happy MLK Day!!

I’m thankful today for Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. His efforts along with the efforts of many in the Civil Rights Movement made it so I’m able to do what I can do today. I seek to consistently honor their memory and strength. I aim to emulate the vision to make the world a better place and continue to carry on their strength. No shame in being a Black American Female because I came from a place of strength thanks to those before me. Likewise, no shame in my Christianity because God IS the definition of strength. I look at the past and see how far we’ve come. I choose not to look at the past with anger. That kind of anger only makes you prisoner to that past. Being that kind of prisoner is not where I want to be. I also don’t wish that kind of enslavement on any of my brothers and sisters. Continue forward with doing what is right and being there for others! Happy MLK day to all my brothers and sisters near and far!💗